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What is the opposite of self-pity AA?
Self-pity is the opposite of self-esteem. It arises because you feel no one will lift you out of your difficulties. The feeling of self-pity typically arises when an individual attributes failures to external factors perceived as uncontrollable. Although the primary focus of self-pity is on the self and one’s own emotions, it has a strong interpersonal component as well. 1. No words can tell of the loneliness and despair I found in that bitter morass of self-pity. 2. Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our self-pity? Self-pity, at its core, is selfish. It seeks its own fulfillment without the inclusion of others. Yet, ironically, someone exhibiting self-pity does not mind other people feeding into their disease utilizing the self-pity. As such, individuals with this “false” pride are given to bragging and boasting, and exemplify dishonesty, arrogance and conceit. This self-aggrandizement—or better, grandiosity—is in fact at the very core of what most professionals regard as highlighting a narcissistic personality disorder. Here empty pride means a fake pride, in the sense of vainglory, unjustified by one’s own achievements and actions, but sought by pretense and appeals to superficial characteristics.
What emotion is self-pity?
Self-pity is when you’re preoccupied with your own troubles. You feel sorry for yourself. Sometimes, self-pity is confused for depression. When you’re living with depression, you may sometimes feel pity for yourself. Self pity is not a healthy type of sadness either. People who self pity often exaggerate their misfortunes and feel hopeless- like life never lets them catch a break. Usually someone who self-pities is absorbed into their misfortune, that they are pessimistic. Self-pity and grief can overlap, especially after the shock and numbness of loss wears off. Grieving is about protesting the pain, feeling all the emotions, and slowly working through your anger, sadness, guilt, shame or frustration. It takes time to recognize, name and own your feelings. Pride is an interesting emotion because it simultaneously focuses on the self and on others. Consequently, pride can be classified both as a self-conscious emotion revolving around the self (Tangney & Fischer, 1995. Self-conscious emotions: The psychology of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and pride.
What are the roots of self-pity?
Self-pity comes because of circumstances either in our control or not in our control. When you feel weighed down with the problems of life and you cross the line from feeling sad to feeling sorry for yourself — those sad feelings can easily turn into self-pity. Feeling sorry for ourselves can be a way of shutting out the rest of the world for a moment and privileging our own experience. It can be an opportunity to nurture ourselves and restore a sense that we are the center of our world. It can be a form of self-care. As such, individuals with this “false” pride are given to bragging and boasting, and exemplify dishonesty, arrogance and conceit. This self-aggrandizement—or better, grandiosity—is in fact at the very core of what most professionals regard as highlighting a narcissistic personality disorder. Poor Me Syndrome traps people in their current challenges because they believe they’re at the mercy of circumstances beyond their control and therefore can’t change things. When people are too busy blaming others for their problems, they don’t find solutions themselves because they’re not even looking for them.
What is the antidote for self-pity?
Generosity to others Looking around to others and for opportunities to bless is another antidote to our self-pity. Self-pity can include ruminating over problems, feeling angry about what life has dealt you, craving the sympathy of others, and unfortunately sometimes falling into a pattern of one upping other people’s struggles. Self-pity makes a narcissist feel like a hero. They have a grandiose sense of self and very often can’t look beyond themselves. But this form of self-esteem is not authentic. So, feeling self-pity and playing the victim acts as a substitute for that lack of authentic self-worth. Poor Me Syndrome traps people in their current challenges because they believe they’re at the mercy of circumstances beyond their control and therefore can’t change things. When people are too busy blaming others for their problems, they don’t find solutions themselves because they’re not even looking for them.
How do you recognize self-pity?
Self-pity can include ruminating over problems, feeling angry about what life has dealt you, craving the sympathy of others, and unfortunately sometimes falling into a pattern of one upping other people’s struggles. Self-pity is when you’re preoccupied with your own troubles. You feel sorry for yourself. Sometimes, self-pity is confused for depression. When you’re living with depression, you may sometimes feel pity for yourself. It sounds like a relatively simple concept, yet for many of us, being kind to ourselves—particularly when we experience failure—can seem downright impossible. According to Nijjar, one of the reasons for this is because society has conditioned us to focus on self-esteem, rather than self-compassion. Some people are naturally hard on themselves. They might have low self-esteem or grow up in an environment where criticism came, and praise was heard rarely. Other times there are psychological issues that lead to a person being hard on themselves or a disorder that makes them have a lack of confidence. Pride is demeaning other people or feeling an aversion to others. Instead of nurturing self-growth, we compete and want to defeat others. Excessive pride prevents the growth of other virtues. It becomes too uncomfortable to recognize our shortcoming or mistakes. Grief is a strong, sometimes overwhelming emotion for people, regardless of whether their sadness stems from the loss of a loved one or from a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have received.
Why is self-pity prideful?
Self-pity is the response of pride to suffering. Boasting says, “I deserve admiration because I have achieved so much.” Self-pity says, “I deserve admiration because I have suffered so much.” Boasting is the voice of pride in the heart of the strong. Because humility is unconcerned with receiving glory, it will naturally seek a source of strength outside of itself. Self-pity, on the other hand, is overly concerned with the approval of others. Rather than reveal its sense of inadequacy, it will simply not try. Self-pity, at its core, is selfish. It seeks its own fulfillment without the inclusion of others. Yet, ironically, someone exhibiting self-pity does not mind other people feeding into their disease utilizing the self-pity. With respect to anger expression, self-pity was primarily related to anger-in. Strong connections with anger rumination were also found. Furthermore, individuals high in self-pity reported emotional loneliness and ambivalent-worrisome attachments. Unhealthy pride happens when we do or say things for the purpose of people praising our SELF or for making our SELF feel good or putting our SELF ahead of someone else’s SELF. Pride wants our SELF to be praised, get glory, be worshiped and be highly talked about, even when we’re not in the room.