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Can we control our thoughts feelings and Behaviour?
The only things we can control in life are our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. If we can manage those, we can achieve our goals and gain success in life. To have this level of control, we need to learn about the science-based patterns behind our emotions and thoughts, and how to manage them. Being aware of our thoughts and feelings are key to managing mental wellbeing. The amount and range of the thoughts and feelings we experience can make it difficult to understand how they may be impacting our daily lives. “The way we think about something affects the way we feel about it. Our thoughts and feelings influence our behaviors, choices, and ultimately, outcomes.” Also connected to our thoughts and feelings are behaviors. Behaviors are our actions or the ways in which we present ourselves to others. You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness. Being unable to control emotions can be temporary. It could be caused by something like a drop in blood sugar or exhaustion from lack of sleep. However, some people experience a constant inability to control their emotions because of a chronic condition. Although we are responsible for our own feelings, what we feel is also influenced, heightened, dampened, or muted by others. When a breaking point with an intense feeling is reached, it is easy to blame others for what we are experiencing.
Can a person control their thoughts?
We are aware of a tiny fraction of the thinking that goes on in our minds, and we can control only a tiny part of our conscious thoughts. The vast majority of our thinking efforts goes on subconsciously. Only one or two of these thoughts are likely to breach into consciousness at a time. Simply put, a situation arises, and we have thoughts about the facts of that situation; those thoughts trigger feelings, and based on those feelings we engage in behaviors which in turn impact the situation (either positively or negatively), and the cycle continues. Scientists have long known that our ability to think quickly and recall information, also known as fluid intelligence, peaks around age 20 and then begins a slow decline. Your thoughts are a catalyst for self-perpetuating cycles. What you think directly influences how you feel and how you behave. So if you think you’re a failure, you’ll feel like a failure. Then, you’ll act like a failure, which reinforces your belief that you must be a failure.
How important is it to control your thoughts manage your feelings and adjust your behavior?
At times, we feel overwhelmed or drained. Such feelings often manifest themselves as intense emotions. By learning how to manage these emotions, we can take better care of our own well-being. This will in turn get us into a better position to support our loved ones and overcome any challenges ahead. It’s natural to get upset when things don’t go as planned, because not knowing what to expect and not feeling in control can be stressful. However, it can be helpful to keep an open mind, focus on finding solutions, and work on being more flexible. People who feel emotionally broken have low-self esteem and tend to be unhappy. You may feel hopeless or in despair. Perhaps you feel inadequate or unworthy of love. Of course, none of these things are true, but they’re common for people who believe they are broken. People who feel emotionally broken have low-self esteem and tend to be unhappy. You may feel hopeless or in despair. Perhaps you feel inadequate or unworthy of love. Of course, none of these things are true, but they’re common for people who believe they are broken. Why You Might Feel Like the Most Emotional Person in the Room. Feeling heightened emotions or like you’re unable to control your emotions can come down to diet choices, genetics, or stress. It can also be due to an underlying health condition, such as a mood disorder or hormones. Being unable to control emotions can be temporary. It could be caused by something like a drop in blood sugar or exhaustion from lack of sleep. However, some people experience a constant inability to control their emotions because of a chronic condition.
What controls thoughts control your life?
“What consumes your mind, controls your life.” That’s when everything made sense to me. I know now that my negative attitude and thinking attracted more negativity. Negative thoughts are cognitions about the self, others, or the world in general that are characterized by negative perceptions, expectations, and attributions and are associated with unpleasant emotions and adverse behavioral, physiological, and health outcomes. Awareness: The next time you are having a negative feeling ask yourself what you are thinking. Then you can reframe your thinking by rephrasing it from “I am having the thought that,” to making it the truth. Then you can challenge your thought with questions to challenge your assumption that your thought is true. The truth is, we often react without thinking. It’s a gut reaction, often based on fear and insecurities, and it’s not the most rational or appropriate way to act. Much is involved in interpreting emotional circumstances and crafting your responses to them, and your brain is affecting how you feel and how you respond to those feelings in ways you’re probably not even aware of.
Can you control people’s emotions?
We cannot control how another person feels or doesn’t feel. That is entirely their choice. A common error I see many people make when trying to deal with other people’s bad moods is to think it is their responsibility to make that person feel better. To avoid blame, use “I feel…” statements (e.g., “I feel sad” or “I feel lonely”) to own your feelings. Stating our emotions directly in this way, without justification about why we feel that way, can make us feel vulnerable. While we can’t completely eliminate emotions – nor would we want to – we can manage our emotions in such a way that we stay in the driver’s seat. This is known as emotional self-regulation.